Re: 2nd Wedding Gifts
posted at 7/23/2009 12:14 PM EDT
In Response to Re: 2nd Wedding Gifts
[QUOTE]...Other suggestions would be a "recipe" shower -- all the guests bring their favorite recipe and an ingredient. A "CD" shower -- each brings her favorite CD. What about a "garden" shower -- plants and bulbs. There are many options that would be fun and wouldn't end up with your having a lot of household things you don't want. Whatever ends up happening, be gracious and pleasant.
Posted by cosmogirl[/QUOTE]
I agree with cos, either suggest a luncheon or tea party, or let MIL know you have all major things, but are always delighted to have little things, whatever you like.
A "little things domestic" type shower is great for a welcome to the family party from a gracious FMIL Recipes, preserves or sundae toppings from some small maker featured at the local vegetable stand, baked goods like pound cakes or date nut bread, brown sugar oatmeal cookies and other things that freeze well. You can graciously and happily receive these as gestures of friendship at wedding time, and use them up.
Suggestions on a favorite charity are fine, but many (including me) do charity donations and work regularly, but for causes we support, and do not consider that a gift for a wedding or shower. We also want to bring something personal. Among my favorite shower & wedding gifts were firewood, things for cooking (like cherry juice concentrate never available in local stores, and extracts and spices) since I love to cook, even several boxes of Triscuits and Wheat Thins with a few pounds of good cheese. Not to mention pistachios and pepitas and cashews. All things you can put out for company if not for yourselves.
I know that I had a ridiculous number of showers, because I belonged to several groups, people not coming to the wedding, co-workers, old hometown neighbors, quilters and kids & staff from a special needs camp. I would have been horrified to have them all buy any major gift - but little things were such a nice gesture, and did not leave me or them with any but good feeling.
Except that hubby and I were truly sorry when we finished it all up!