My live-in BF of 2 years was invited to a wedding; it’s a close friend who I’ve never met b/c he lives on the West Coast (where the wedding is). This has been on the radar for months & we started making plans to attend long ago; before I bought a ticket, I told BF to make sure I was invited – he assured me I was & we booked air/hotel. Fast Forward: The wedding invites went out late, we had not gotten one so the groom texted w/ meal options, BF asked me & we placed our order. The invitations arrived YESTERDAY (the wedding is in 2+ weeks) & there is no “& Guest” on the envelope / inner envelope. Now I feel like a total idiot b/c I was obviously not invited. BF says “it’s no big deal”, they know I’m coming – I’m trying to explain that is not the same thing as being INVITED.

So HELP. Do I cancel my flight? Do I go & just hang out in the hotel during the wedding? Do we ask to include me?

If it helps, we are all in our late 30s, BF is the only “un-married” guy so he'd be with all couples, travel alone AND pay for the hotel ($700+ for the 2-nite minimum) -- personally, i think if you're asking that of a guest, he should be invited with his GF. Even if an invite is extended now -- i feel like a gerk.

thoughts???

Sorry this happened to you. However, the couple is in the wrong.  You've been living with him for two years and should have been on the invitation. No one can expect him to travel across the country alone. Your bf included your meal choice, was there a response to that? I'm hoping that it was an over site and you really were included in their count.

Thanks for the helpful comments. Problem solved – BF called, politely inquired (there was no begging, lol) & they say they're expecting us. I AGREE, if it doesn’t say “guest” or preferably a name -- you’re not invited. this was odd b/c BF talked to the groom multiple times & CONFIRMED before we booked the trip that I was invited, he said I was & they were looking forward to meeting me, blah blah – then we got the invitation (11 days prior to the wedding due to printing errors) & I was left off. I happily would’ve stayed home if they didn’t/couldn’t include me – but under the circumstances where everything was booked/paid for, we'd sent a gift  --- it seemed odd & worth a 30 second phone call. I can’t guarantee the bride was in the loop on all this – but that’s what happened.