Re: Some Thoughts on The Blog
posted at 11/4/2011 12:51 PM EDT
In Response to Re: Some Thoughts on The Blog:
[QUOTE]Trigger: I think some of your posts are somewhat referring to me, and I know you (and others) think I've been hard on you. I probably have been, but I can't say I apologize for it because I think that whatever advice or guidance I've given you was somewhat useful to you, by your own admission even. It's also the same way I'd give advice if it were in person. Jokes and sarcasm are hard to decipher online, yeah. That's been beaten to death over and over again. But those things are just part of who I am and what I do. People are always free to ignore me, and that includes you if you don't find anything I say to be useful, or if you feel I'm picking on you. To be fair though, I pick on everyone and they pick on me back -- and that does go for you too. For the record, I don't consider you a detractor here.
Posted by Porkchop-[/QUOTE]
Dude, I really don’t have any issue with you. I actually wasn’t referring to you, but honestly I am picking up some of the other people’s comments and feel they are referring to you based upon my observations of this place. You are harsh, blunt, and I am assuming honest. No problem with that. I don’t see you as one who is pushing the vulgarity buttons though. I hate it when people beat around the bush and don’t just speak their mind. That leads to more problems than the other way around in my opinion.
Yes, you could get your same points across without flaming a person, as could others. If that isn’t your style, so be it. But by maintaining that mantra you will alienate yourself from others and that point you are trying to make will get lost, even when it is a very valid point. If you don’t care, again, so be it. Just don’t be surpised when you upset people (not me) for it.
I am just as guilty about not being good at communication. Although, outside of my marriage discussions (and religion, politics, and the environment), whenever I appeared to fly off the handle or acted absurdly weird I was just playing a part. Something I learned as a defense mechanism.
Not to gain sympathy or anything else, but I was picked on a lot as a young kid and even up onto college. I learned to defend myself and others who were also being picked on. This is probably why I am a bleeding heart liberal despite my economic and implied social standing. Speaking up and defending yourself can be a good quality. But I also know it can be detrimental. As it has been here, when conclusions are reached and things get implied or taken out context.
I still think that I am very much misunderstood on here. Some have tuned me out, so fine. As annoying as it can be, such is life. Like Jeepers-Cripes states, I play my part as well. I am not comfortable being in any other position as I have been playing the self-loathing annoying brat or whatever for so long. I don’t make friends easily, so it is better to just be the outcast. I’ve said it before, but I do sabotage relationships. It’s just easier as I have always had people turn on me in the end anyway. Probably all my fault anyway as I am blunt and speak my mind and lack the social acumen to properly handle many situations. That is outside of a couple of really good, close friends mind you.
I know who I am. I know my faults. I do try to work on them, but unfortunately I am only human (so the DNA says).