Re: Anger is never good...
posted at 10/28/2011 9:45 AM EDT
I will be on the side of Anger is good. It is how you process it.
I know there were times I was completely ticked off, and I wound up funneling that into awesomeness, which shocked and amazed people. Honestly though the followup conversation tended to be...
Me: "Well he said this and it ticked me off!"
Others: "Dude, he ment that AS A COMPLEMENT!"
Me (reviewing what the person said and how they said it): "Oh..."
Anger is also a part of the healing process http://grief.com/the-five-stages-of-grief/
There is one other thing I want to say.
Walking away does not give you or your offender a chance to work through what happened together and prevent it from continuing.
I will disagree only on this sense. Sometimes you have to walk away so you will be able to work thorugh what happened with the person, instead of punching through the person. If you are angry and walk away, do so knowing that you will need to come back to the person and say "Hey, you know, this really ticked me off, I needed to get my bearings so I could talk to you about it..."
I would rather someone walk away and come back to explain, then try to punch me.
That being said, I still have one grudge in my life, I plan on holding that.