Re: Is Breastfeeding 2 years and up normal??
posted at 6/22/2011 11:59 AM EDT
You say you have nothing against nursing but you do.
In Response to Is Breastfeeding 2 years and up normal??
[QUOTE] I have nothing against nursing but it's just plain embarrassing when she starts nursing her daughter in public. it's just dsigusting and I dont want to be seen with her. I just want to stand up and walk away and tell her that it's not normal.
Posted by mommywats[/QUOTE]
You do have something against it if you think it's disgusting and shameful.
I can understand how it can be disconcerting to see a toddler breastfeeding since it is not common in our society. Statistically it's not normal since in this country statistically not many women make it to the recommended 1 year mark. It's not unnatural, however. It is clearly not embarrassing for the mother if she is doing it in public. I breastfed to 15 months. If I hadn't been working full time I would have gone longer. I will probably try to go longer with my next child since breastfeeding is one of the things I miss the most about having a baby.
If I do go longer next time I probably won't be as willing to let my kid have complete control over disrobing me and nursing in public as your friend does but that's more about my beliefs in teaching about personal space and my need to feel autonomous, not a judgement about breastfeeding. My daughter started asking (signing) for milk at 7 months and she was definitely into pulling my shirt up/down and attempting to disrobe me at 11 months so if I had followed the "if they can ask for it they don't need or deserve it anymore" policy I wouldn't have made it to a year.
If it bothers you so much, stop hanging out. If she asks why, let her know the nursing made you uncomfortable. If she's nursing a toddler in public then she won't care what you think and be glad to be rid of you.
Framing this as whether it's normal or not is not an effective way of judging its validity. It's "normal" to watch over 4 hours of TV a day in America. It's "normal" to be overweight in America. It's "normal" to be in credit card debt. It's "normal" to sing the chicken dance at bar mitzvahs.
Keep in mind in America it's also normal for a mother to only get 8 weeks of maternity leave. That's considered a "luxury"--in some lower-income jobs "normal" is NO paid maternity leave. If those norms were different, breastfeeding norms would be different as well.