Re: Constipaton and potty training
posted at 12/13/2012 9:27 PM EST
1. I'd definitely call your pedi's office and ask specifically about this.
2. I'd also see what she's comfortable with, and I would ABSOLUTELY offer a diaper for her to p-oop in if that's how she's comfortable. ESPECIALLY since you do not want to make the holding it in worse, etc - she already has a problem, no need to make it worse with potty training. Now, she's also very regulated re: p-ooping, so you could probably tell her to "ask if you want a diaper for p-oop, or you can go on the potty." I'd not assume she won't want to p-oop on the potty, but I would make it a very relaxed thing. "Eventually, you will do all your pee and p-oop on the potty/toilet like Mommy does. For now, because you're learning, we'll just do pee in the potty, please ask for a diaper for p-oop." And, in fact, since she's so regulated, you might "accidently" just not put the underpants on her until after she's gone p-oop in her diaper (if she does it in the AM, for example) or change her into her nighttime pjs and diaper earlier than usual so she has time to use her diaper (for a before bed p-ooper), get changed, then go to bed. And do NOT shame her, it's very matter of fact, "oh, I know some day you'll p-oop in the potty, but not right now." Do NOT discuss this with childcare except OUT of her ear shot and only if you think her teachers will be on board. (for ex, since she doesn't p-oop at childcare, you don't have to talk to them about this) Because, honestly, some people are going to tell you to go "100% potty" and in another circumstance I'd say that, too, but not in this case. You simply CANNOT have her slide backwards. Children use bottles before sippy cups, then sippy cups before open cups.... and all adults use regular cups not sippies and are potty trained by kindergarten (barring special needs), so if a diaper is her middle of the ground to being 100% potty trained, no biggie!
(if she doesn't want to use a diaper because "babies" use diapers, then use a pullup for the p-ooping - again, this is me talking, who HATES pullups, but this is a perfect case of using them. It looks a bit more like underpants but it will have the feel of the diaper.... it might work for her)
3. also, make SURE she can put her feet on the floor (so use a potty) or on a very sturdy step stool that's the RIGHT height, so that she doesn't have a dangling/falling in concern, and also because you need to have your feet on something stable to bear down and p-oop. Esp. if you have a constipation problem (poor little girl...) You may need to (seriously) buy a few different heights of step stools to figure out which one is the right height based on her height and the height of the toilet. And different toilets in your house might need different height step stools.
4. and can you hide a few drops of prune juice in her morning yogurt? or in her morning orange juice (and I mean a few drops, that stuff is potent!) And does like like figs, dates and fig newtons? I'm sure you are a pro at helping your daughter go naturally with food choices.