May Infants and Toddlers

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    If Benedryl relieves her unbearable allergy symptoms and makes her sleepy at night what's to feel bad about?  It's not like you're drugging her to put her to bed for the sake of making her sleepy.  She won't need it indefinitely, just when she's so stuffed up she can't breath or sleep comfortably without it.  Non-drowsy formulas generally contain stimulants and will keep her up.
     
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    DD is 14 1/2 months and went down to one nap at daycare about 2 weeks ago.  I think she sleeps from around 12-2.  For the past week, she has not been herself at bedtime at 7.  I can tell she's overtired and kind of hyped up, but she does go to sleep pretty quickly.  Do you think a) it's a transition and will solve itself, b) she needs to go to bed earlier, or c) I should ask daycare to keep trying for the am nap?  On weekends, she still takes two naps, but I know kids sometimes do things differently at home.
     
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    Benedryl is actually not recommended for children under 6. I have it in the house in case someone has an allergic reaction to something. It can relieve hives and other reactions fairly quickly.
    Amy-lynn - you might want to call the pedi and find a solution that will get you through allergy season.

    Fra - I know some daycares are pretty rigid about moving toddlers to one nap. If yours is like that, I'd suggest moving up bedtime a bit - if you can. I'm sure it's a time crunch at your house between dinner and bed as it is.
    And - of course it will resolve itself. A lot of kids drop to one nap around 14-15 months, and I think almost all of them by 18 months.
     
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    If it's not recommended definitely don't give it w/out talking to a pedi first, but I hope there's something, even if it makes her sleepy, she can take.  Antihistimines make people sleepy - if they don't, there's an ingredient that I'm very sensitive to (it makes  me want to claw people's eyes out when I'm not busy trying to crawl out of my own skin) that counteracts the sleepiness.  Given she's wired on Claritin Kids it might have it.  My doctor said some people react that way and shouldn't take "daytime" allergy relief.  My grandfather reacted that way, too - one day he said when he took anything "non-drowsy" he wanted to smash all the furniture to bits with a big sledge hammer for no reason whatsoever; I could totally relate!  I digress, but I had allergies so bad as a kid I felt bad that sleepiness would be a deterent if that were the only thing holding someone back from giving it.
     
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    While none of my pedis have recommended Benedryl to me, both my sister's and SIL's have for their kids.  And my sister's kids are roughly the same age as mine.  

    I do not use anything regularly on the kids but Benedryl is great for alleviating runny noses and stuffiness.  It's actually what I take now since I can't take regular cold stuff due to my high blood pressure. 
     
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    The pedi was the one who recommended allergy meds (she gave me the accurate dose for benadryl based on weight, but said the claritin was OK too). My problem is that I want to keep her comfortable day and night, but claritin is 24 hours, and the benadryl does conk her out, so I don't want to give it during the day. If there was something like the day/night cold meds adults have, I'd be happy, and I bet she would too, but I'm not sure if there is a solution until the pollen levels drop. Hopefully that won't be too long. If it goes on too many more days, I'm going to call the pedi again.
    Sigh. 
    Both my dad and brother and DHs mom have really bad allergies. DH and I have not had many problems, but it seems like DD might have gotten the short end of the stick.
     
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    Last year my DS was rubbing his eyes a lot and the eye doctor thought it might be allergies so she suggested the allergy relief eye drops. We got the over the counter type at CVS. Naphcon-A or something like that.
    Won't help the stuffy nose during the day - but it might help the itchy eyes.
    Allergies are such a drag!
     
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    Fram... I think its the transition and will even out.  But certainly try a slightly earlier bedtime if that's possible.  Not sure when you get home, but maybe even 10-15 minutes earlier if possible.  My DS was all over the place when he first started the daycare 1 nap.  And we still did two naps on the weekend for 2-3 months after.  He is now on only one all days at just about 19 mths.  Bedtime is funny. Some days he goes in the crib at 6:30 and is out by 6:40.  Sometimes he goes in the crib at 7 and "talks" until 8:30.  So all over the place.  But... he always goes in his crib happily... so I'm cool with however long he'd like to take to fall asleep as long as he's content.
     
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    My daycare pushed for 1 nap right when they turn 1. It took a few weeks before DD (13.5 mos) got adjusted and started napping only 1 time at home. Now she sleeps a good 2-3 hours and has pushed her bedtime from 7 to 8. I love it because I get more time with her after work, and she sleeps a little later in the AM.

    Love all the phrases your LOs are coming up with. So cute. DH loved the "Come back soon!"

     
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    I've found that since DD switched to one nap at daycare, she needs a little more downtime when we get home...so instead of really active play when we get home, which we used to do, I get her a little snack, we watch about 15-20 minutes of TV or read a couple of books, and just relax.  It's like it resets her, and then we can start making dinner and she's back to her wild self when her daddy comes home.  I also noticed that she has a much easier time going to bed at night...she used to fight it hard, but now will reach for her dad after the story and settle right into her crib, no crying, no protest! 
     
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    Fram, we had the exact same scenario.  I think as long as the overtiredness isn't causing big problems (e.g., can't fall asleep, or night terrors), it's better to ride it out.  I asked our daycare to try for two naps for a while longer since she would still do it at home, and it never worked.  Just annoyed the LO (and probably her nice daycare teachers!)

    I am having a hard week.  I think it is mostly to do with the LO getting so big, moving to a new room at daycare next week, and of course running away from me as I posted above!  I feel really sad and a little bit anxious.  It is just happening so fast, and I love this age so much (easier for me than when she was an infant).  I feel desperate to freeze her so I can get more baby hugs (or, "huds" as she calls them) and helpless because I can't.  Ah, this too will pass, I'm sure.  Apparently 3 year olds are a real hoot so I have much to look forward to.  :)

    amy lynn, hope the allergies improve!  That sounds miserable.  And I would not feel guilty about benadryl if you/your doctor agree that it works for you.  I totally understand the impulse to feel bad, but look at it this way.  If you were suffering that much, you'd think it was unjust if someone *withheld* medicine that could help you rest.
     
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    3 year olds are a piece of work but they are also the ones who will tell you that you are awesome and they love you more than all the tea in China (a totally non-pc saying from my mom when she was a kid).  So cute!
     
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    If your child has more than a cold - ie, if they do have seasonal allergies- please bring them to the pedi and get a prescription or have the  dr tell you what OTC remedy to use continuously for the duration of the allergy season. Spot treating allergies at night is not effective if you have anything other than the mildest of seasonal allergies.  I developed horrendous seasonal and mold allergies as an adult. I cannot imagine having them as a child. If I didn't take allergy medication regularly, I would not be able to function.  I actually eat less and sleep less soundly b/c I have so much phlegm.  I have to double up on my meds this time of year  [shh, don't tell the dr].  Unmedicated, I would not be able to drive to work, and, if I were able to, I would be fired from my job b/c I am an absolute B if I have untreated allergies {I've had fights w/ new doctors who want me to stop taking the meds for a week so they can 'accurately determine the extent of my allergies' - and I've basically told them to go to hell}.  Since I know how I as an adult cannot function and how cranky I get when I have untreated allergies, I can only imagine how uncomfortable a toddler or baby would be esp when they can't verbalize their issue and have no self-restraint in expressing their uncomfortableness.  Get the child treated and medicated. There are ample safe allergy medications for children as young as 6 months.  HTH.
     
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    I've outgrown a lot of mine, but had very bad allergies as a kid and is also why I chimed in to do whatever you can safely do to alleviate those symptoms; it's torture especially at night when the pressure builds as you lie down.
     
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    I actually have nighttime allergy meds in addition to the 24 hr claritin and nasal spray that I take in the AM.  Symptoms get worse in the wee hours [not sure why, but that's how allergies typically work] so I take something w/ dinner.  Allery meds take a few hours to actually work on symptoms [whether you take day or night] which is why you need to take them continuously for the duration of allergy season.  Continuous use of the meds allows them to work properly and control the symptoms.  If you just take them at night, you don't have that continuity and, at best, get just a few hours of relief.  None of my meds are drowsy formula and my nighttime RX is commonly given to kids, but I'm not sure on the age.  There are remedies out there; you just need an RX for them. 

    I really don't understand why treating a child's allergies would make a mom feel bad or guilty. I  get that you don't want to give a RX that causes drowsiness during the day b/c you don't want to knock them out 24/7, but there are plenty of nondrowsy formulas. It may take a few tries before you find the RX that works best for your child round the clock, but the remedy is out there. There are also some lifestyle fixes you may need to make - no air drying clothes outside during allergy season, allergen free bed covers or the ones that go under the pillow case, no feather filled items, get rid of wall to wall carpeting or at least get it and any area rugs cleaned, take shoes off when you come in the house so you don't drag allergens around, HEPA filter vacuums and air purifiers in the bedroom, etc.  The dr or ENT dr will give you a big list of suggestions. GL
     
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    ALF - I dn't think Amy-lynn feels bad about treating her DD's allergies. I think she's having trouble figuring out how to best treat them.  Properly dosing kids is a tricky thing. When they are tiny you are told not to give them anything, and I know for me that kind of stuck in my head. I often start with a half dose of something because I worry about givng them too many meds. I think Amy was worried about using both the claritin and the benedryl - and perhaps giving her LO too many meds at once.
    I think your advice about properly taking the meds on a consistant basis is a good one. I take arthritis meds like that, they took 3 or 4 weeks to kick in and I have to take it everyday to keep the aches and pains away.

    When my kids were getting all their vaccines, a friend of mine told me to give them a little Tylenol before the dr. appt. because it made the vaccines less painful. Wonderful! What mom wouldn't want their kids to have less pain when they are getting 3 or 4 shots? Well, I read an article that says if you do that, it can cause the vaccines to be less effective. So we didn't do it. But who would have thought that a little Tylenol would negate a vaccine?
     
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    Indeed, giving your child drugs is a big deal with a lot to consider.  And, not to put words in ALF's mouth, but I think Amy-lynn's saying she's withholding the benedryl for its causing sleepiness at night makes us both feel compelled to urge a visit to an allergist or her regular pedi asap to get a safe and effective plan in place.
     
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    fram - maybe you should go to 1 nap over the weekends too.  i had a horrible time with the 2- to 1- nap transition w/ DS and i think it was b/c i stretched out the transition too long - once we were consistent about 1 nap every day it worked itself out.
     
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    Doctors appt was a success.  Neuro Surgeon was not concerned in the least.  NP came in first and did a few motor tests.  Then the doc came and talked to us for a few.  I thought my doctor sent me there about maybe needing a helmet but he said absolutly not.  He just wanted to verify his brain was ok and it is.  His skull is just growing faster than his brain and it will all catch up.  In his words "he just has a big squash".   That was good to hear.  All in all it was a success minus the fact that round trip it was 4 hours because of early morning traffic and the rain.  I am glad my dad was with me and not DH because he does not do good in traffic. 

    I almost could not go to the appt becuase I was sick as a dog.  But I got out of bed and went.  When I got home, luckily DH got home from work soon after and I stayed in bed all afternoon and night.  I feel better today but now both kids have a cough/cold/allergies.  who knows what it is.  About the bendryl, I have given it to my daugher a number of times.  with the doctors ok of course.  

     
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    What a relief, quad, that his brain development is on track - great news!  My nephew also had a "big squash" when he was little, but he's a handsome, normally proportioned young man, now.  I think he was about 3 when it started looking proportional.  Sorry you're all sick, though. :(
     
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    So glad your appointment went well quad.  I have big love for Children's and all the docs there.  DD had specialists in 5 different departments there after she was born and it made me realize how lucky we are to have such top notch care right here in Boston.  A couple of her doctors are so wonderful I could just hug them.   I'm really glad that you got good feedback from the neuro doctor.

    I've been interested in people's feedback this week on tantrums and setting limits, punishment for disobeying rules, etc.  DD will be 22 months this weekend and is definitely mischievous and willful.  I really have to get that Happiest Toddler book.  We also struggle with her testing her limits and wanting to get reaction out of us.  Basically she knows she isn't supposed to do something and looks at me, smiles, and does it anyway.  She also scolds herself, which is actually kind of funny.  Sometimes as she is climbing up on the table, she is telling herself "get down" before I even have a chance to say it first.  I generally try to ignore when she repeatedly gives dinner to the dog, but am more serious about dangerous things (standing and jumping off the coffee table, hitting, etc).  I'm glad to hear others' reactions to this type of thing is similar.

    Other than that, things are good.  I love hearing all the language that is coming out of all of your LOs.  It is so fun around this age!  We are in a talking explosion and there is literally a new word or phrase everyday.  We have kind of a long commute and DD started saying "where truck go"? in traffic and then when it passed she would say "i don't see 'em".  She also has started saying "oh my goodness" and "later aligator" all the time.  Too funny. 
     
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    Glad the appointment went well Quad!

    Thanks for the feedback about DD's naps.  Daycare (in a home) is not strict about going to one nap.  She said that one day DD wouldn't go down in the am, so she switched to one nap around 12, which is a little earlier than when the 2+ year olds go down.

    Stef - I will try to do one nap at home!  Last weekend was the first time I tried.  She slept from 10:30 to 12:15, which was awesome because as you all know she usually only naps for 45 minutes!  Problem was she napped again at 5:00 and then wouldn't go to bed until 9:00.  But I will keep trying different things and will make sure if she needs a cat nap, she takes it way before 5:00!

    Daycare provider's bday is coming up.  (One of the other parents told me.)  Do any of you get bday presents?  I was thinking one of those gift cards that can be used at a few different restaurants...

     
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    Great news, Quad!

    For me, the reason benadryl (or anything that causes drowsiness) feels guilty is because it also saves *you* from being up all night.  It is a huge relief to you, ergo it feels like you're doing something for your own benefit.
    Might not be totally rational, but such is life.  :)

    Those who have happiest toddler: does it address reasonable expectations for different ages?  I am comfortable with what I want to *do* when there is misbehavior, but I'm not totally sure when my standards are too high (or too low).
     
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    We are sooo lucky to have such a great Childrens Hospital.  In the garage I noticed hundreds of cars with out of state plates.  We even met a couple in there from Kentucky who child was having surgery. 

    It is sad to walk through and see the sick children but to know that they are at the best place they could be makes me happy and everything will be done to make them better. 
     
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    Great news, Quad.

    Medford - Sorry for your anxious feelings.  I totally get that.  I'm getting increasingly resentful of work for taking time away that I could be with DD.  And that's not going to change any time soon.
     

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