Re: October Infants & Toddlers
posted at 10/23/2013 10:38 PM EDT
I was going to say that getting rid of a pacifier at 12 to 18 months might work better than getting rid of it at 21/2 yrs old re; not having them start sucking their thumb, fingers, etc. like you son is doing at 3 years old.
BUT then medford said her daughter, who never did any pacifier or thumb sucking, started doing it when her baby brother was born.,... so one doesn't lead to the other.
Still, the longer you use it, the longer the habit of needing something in the mouth to soothe yourself - really, a baby needs to suck for soothing outside of nursing, so that's why they suck on fingers, binkies, etc. But a toddler and older has other mechanisms to soothe - like hugging a doll, snuggling a blankie, crying and getting over the upset, etc. They don't need a pacifier, and the longer we let them have it, we're not helping them learn to use other (more socially appropriate and less mouth-chapping and germ inducing) methods to self soothe.
And, after my parents negotiated the throwing away of MY pacifier at AGE FIVE, (yes, folks, you read that right!) I started biting my nails, and my hands are just hacked! Actually, my fingertips are less sensitive and I'm less able to open small things with my fingertips and I think that's because I've deadened the tips of my fingers from 45 years of nail biting (my nails are bitten down and my cuticles, too, it's not pretty). And I wonderf if one led to the other....?