Re: Stay at home Dad is bored
posted at 12/1/2009 2:54 PM EST
kargiver--I was wondering the same thing. I'm guessing the "bored" actually means that he needs more adult interaction--not that there's nothing that needs to be done around the house. On days that I'm home with my twins, I barely have time to shower and eat while they're napping...let alone, be bored. My kids are a bit older though, and don't sleep nearly as much as a 3 1/2 month old. I suspect that in a month or two, when she's on a 2 x 2-3 hour nap schedule/day, that he'll have less time to be bored. When I do have a moment or two during the day, I'm usually picking up toys, running a load or two of laundry, loading/unloading the dishwasher, making bottles, etc.
All of that being said, however, if he's home with her all day everyday, it IS important for him to get out and connect with other grown-ups--at least for a few hours a week. It's REALLY HARD to be at home with an infant and can be very isolating. And I would imagine it's even harder to be a SAHD since many SAHM's aren't very open to Dads in a non-traditional role (suspicious looks at the playground, patronizing attitude about Dad "babysitting," etc.). So even if the housework has to wait, he should be encouraged to get out of the house. I think "baby and me" classes are a great option to connect with other SAH parents. Isis actually has a SAHD group: http://www.isismaternity.com/classes/type/timefordadsseries
This is a bit pricey, in my opinion, but if he does one 4-week session, it will allow him to connect w/other Dads and possibly set up a playgroup independently of Isis along the way. Ok...I'm looking more closely and these only meet on weekends...sigh. Still, it may be worth it to potentially meet other SAHDs, but since it's on the weekend, it probably won't be exclusively SAHDs. How unfortunate :(
I did a quick google search on "SAHD Boston" and came across this website: http://athomedad.org/
I didn't look too closely, but it looks like it might be a good resource to start with. I noticed there was a "local groups" tab....
I hope your DH finds something to get him out of the house...and if he doesn't, there's always housework.... Seriously, though, good luck, and let us know what he ends up doing.