Re: Terrible Twos...
posted at 11/2/2012 9:11 PM EDT
In response to Arcain's comment:
Sorry to get slightly off topic (age-wise, at least), but does anyone know good resources for dealing with a willful infant? DS is 8 months and has taken to screaming (literally, though it often leads to crying) when we do something he doesn't want: go to change his diaper, pick him up from playing, put him in his high chair (even though he LOVES eating -- go figure). He's obviously way too young for the techniques mentioned here, but I wonder if there's some way to sort of set the stage for those techniques later, since the screaming 8 month old eventually becomes the 2 year old screaming "No!"
I would make sure you give him a warning and tell him what you are going to do. So instead of swooping in, picking him up and putting him in the high chair and putting a spoon in his mouth, try this:
DS, I'm going to make your lunch, I'm going to open the green beans and the cereal!"
(then when you've opened them and all is warmed, prepped, in bowls, blah blah) you can say "DS, it's time to go have lunch, I'm going to pick you up and put you in your high chair so you can eat green beans."
(then you do it)
and if he does scream, just know that he has a hard time with transitions, but it's not that he "doesn't want" to eat. He'll scream, then eat. but you can't NOT feed him, or diaper him. But telling him what you are going to do often is better than just swooping in - they get so much swooping and being moved to a new room, new toy, diaper table, high chair, bed, stroller, carseat, grandma's lap, etc. that it can be overwhelming for a child who doesn't make transitions easily.