Re: Pacifier Weaning
posted at 11/14/2013 11:10 PM EST
I think for the 2 year old you just go cold turkey, the 2 yr old will cry the first 2 nights, but will get over it.
For the older one, I'd do the 1 or 2 week warning like was suggested, and I'd suggest that your 5 yr old get to choose something else to start bringing to bed - either a favorite stuffed animal OR you go out together (a special trip for just the 2 of you, no 2 yr old tagging along) and choose the special night time stuffed animal.... and your older one gets it as soon as the pacifier is thrown away. Meaning if after you buy, if your child wants to throw away the pacifier that night to get the new toy in bed, great. Otherwise the toy can stay in Mommy's room for visits until PTA (pacifier throw away) Day.
But once you decide on which day is the last day(I'd suggest the last night be either a Friday or a Thursday so if it's a few hard nights at first it's not a Monday or Tuesday when everyone needs to go to work/school), then that's it - no amount of begging, negotiating, or even screaming gets that pacifier back.
Now, I'm going to out myself - I had my pacifier until I was 5 years, 3 months exactly like this - in bed, never anywhere else. When I was 2 yrs old I used to ask to be put in my crib so i could have my pacifier, evidently! My mother said that I told her "When (cat's name) has her kittens, I will get rid of my pacifier." (I'm sure she subtly put the thought in my mind that "soon you'll not use your pacifier). Anyway, the day she had those kittens, I threw away my pacifier and that was it - never asked for it, didn't cry, etc. So I bet your 5 yr old is more ready than you think.