APRIL 2013 TTC

  1. You have chosen to ignore posts from MissWolff. Show MissWolff's posts

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    Thanks everyone, I appreciate it.  Feeling better now that I've had some days to reflect on it.  I guess it was better than getting further along and then m/c due to the translocation.  I need some good luck, going to stock up on clovers and horseshoes!!

     
  2. You have chosen to ignore posts from NorthernLghts. Show NorthernLghts's posts

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    I just submitted my appeal letter to my insurance company. I ended up writing how much is suck dealing with this disorder on a daily basis and we want to avoid my complications or worse for them. Hoping it works the first time around and that we don't need to wait until November to start this process. The RE doc thinks we have a good shot so we'll see.

     
  3. You have chosen to ignore posts from KMMZ1012. Show KMMZ1012's posts

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    Good luck, Northern! The hoops insurance companies make you jump through just makes everything else so much more stressful. Hope you get good news.

     
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    Northern, I mailed you those OPK/pg dip strip tests yesterday. You'll just need a bunch of plastic cups to pee into. It's all very glamorous.  HTH.

     
  5. You have chosen to ignore posts from NorthernLghts. Show NorthernLghts's posts

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    KMMZ- they rejected us a second time. The next step would be appealing to the state which we don't want to do because this isn't something that is worth appealing to the state on. So I'm going to my dr's this week to ask a bunch of questions about doing this "the old fashion" way and seeing what our options are if we concieve naturally. It's not what we wanted but we also don't want to just sit around and wait until November. Who knows, maybe it'll take that long anyway  and then we can go back to the insurance company but we'll just take it one step at a time.

    Thanks Whirled! I think I have some small leftover plastic drinking cups lol Smile

     
  6. You have chosen to ignore posts from NorthernLghts. Show NorthernLghts's posts

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    KMMZ-they rejected us a second time. According to my RE's office, the next step would be appealing to the state. This just isn't worth going that high up, if technically, I don't have an IF issues. I'm going to the dr's this week to ask a bunch of questions about getting pg the "old fashioned way" and seeing what our options would be if we concieve naturally. Who knows, if could take until November anyway and then we can go back to the insurance company with our original plan. Neither one of us wants to just sit around and wait until then though. So we'll just have to wait and see what happens.

    Thanks Whirled! I think I have some leftover small plastic drinking cups lol Smile

     
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    Sorry about the rejection Northern!

    My head is spinning from all the IVF consents we just read through and signed.  Still very undecided on whether we should go through with it, though want to get all the insurance approvals underway.  We need to sit down and have a serious discussion about our thoughts on multiples.  That is my biggest worry about all this. If this was our first baby I would be happy for multiples, (well twins anyway!  :) )   though since we already have DD, I am not sure how I feel.  Need to make a decision soon though.  Tomorrow I have my day 3 appointment for the Clomid challenge required by insurance since I turn 40 soon. 

     
  8. You have chosen to ignore posts from kargiver. Show kargiver's posts

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    Wed, nothing about having children is ideal - you know that, you have one. :)  

    Neither of the people I'm very close with who had multiples (both families had toddlers at the time) would have wished it on themselves, but my SIL's 3 kids (twins) are grown and my friends are doing what they have to do (as difficult as it is) to raise their 3 yo and her 3 brothers.

    My muddled point is that deciding to try to get pregnant by any and all ways possible (from simply avoiding bc to IVF) always comes with risks - multiples (spontaneous or chemically encouraged), Down's and other chromosomal abnormalities, chemical imbalances, and who knows what kind of problems that may manifest at any time like autism or depression.  It's like driving - we all risk getting mangled or killed every single time we get in the car...but we do it with nary a thought.

    I'm not saying don't think about it, but remember, big risks are there no matter what.

     
  9. You have chosen to ignore posts from KMMZ1012. Show KMMZ1012's posts

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    Multiples was our concern, too. My dr wanted to implant 2-3 embryos and we were very hesitant about that for a number of reasons, the main one being I was pre-eclamptic for the latter part of my first pregnancy. I was extremely worried that multiple would make that condition worse. Even though it could mean more rounds of IVF, we decided to only have 1 implanted at a time. I just can't imagine bedrest with my super active DS. I was flat on my back this week with a wicked bout of sciatica and DS was super great about giving me space, but I saw how tough it was on my husband to carry that load on his own.

    Not that I couldn't end up on bedrest without multiples, but I just wanted to level the playing field, I guess.


    Northern - so sorry the insurance company rejected you. We switched from Tufts to HP in the middle of a cycle and the whole thing was a nightmare from start to finish, so I get how frustrating all that is. Hope your RE gives you some good options.

     
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    Hello All - I have a question that I think you ladies might know the answer to - can you trust Dollar Tree pregnancy tests?  After I bought it and opened it I saw it said "for in vitro diagnostics only." Any thoughts?

     
  11. You have chosen to ignore posts from kargiver. Show kargiver's posts

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    Yes, you can trust them.  That means that it is for use outside the body (opposite of in vivo).  All home pregnancy tests are in vitro.

    ETA:  in vitro fertilization literally means fertilization that occurs outside the body, by the way.

     
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    Kar - Got it!  Yes, I did think it had something to do with IVF.  Thanks for the info and saving me the extra money to confirm :) 

     
  13. You have chosen to ignore posts from kargiver. Show kargiver's posts

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    no problem - I wondered if that was the source of your confusion because we obviously associate that phrase with ivf.

    Actually, I've always wondered why they put that warning on there at all - would the "in vitro use only" warning make anyone say, "Whoops, in vitro!  Good thing they told me before I stuck it up there."  Laughing

     
  14. You have chosen to ignore posts from kargiver. Show kargiver's posts

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    Wait, confirm?!  Are congrats in order??

     
  15. You have chosen to ignore posts from wedoct09. Show wedoct09's posts

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    Haven't been able to get to the boards for a few days...

    Kar, I agree with all your points.  With the IVF I just feel like I have a little more control since they are actually implanting the fertilized eggs so I know there is that much higher a chance.  It is likely completely irrational, though just how I feel.  We have decided to go for it and see what happens.

    KMMZ, how long did it take for your insurance approvals to come in?  We submitted ours last week and wondering how long it might take. We go on vacation in early July so I am thinking I might postpone our IVF cycle assuming it's approved until we get back so I don't have to worry about it on vacation. I think I will talk to the doctor about the options of implanting less.  

     
  16. You have chosen to ignore posts from kargiver. Show kargiver's posts

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    I was simply explaining that the "for in vitro use only" warning on the poas box means "do not stick the test in your body."  That was my entire point.

    trouble's question was essentially, "it says 'in vitro' so can I use it to test for pg if we didn't do in vitro fertilization?"  Yes.  The phrase "in vitro" can be used to describe anything done outside the body, in this case a pregnancy test you pee on instead of inserting somewhere.  I'm glad you agree!  LOL

    this is not to be confused with my commenting on the likelihood of getting a bfp either way - I have no knowledge or opinion regarding that.

     

     
  17. You have chosen to ignore posts from KMMZ1012. Show KMMZ1012's posts

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    Wed - I had to jump through a lot of hoops for my insurance company. DH had to see a urologist and I had to see both a nutritionist and an anesthesiologist before they would approve anything. We were in the middle of an IUI cycle and got a call from the Dr that our insurance wouldn't cover the procedure because we didn't meet certain guidelines for IUI - it wasn't likely to succeed in their eyes based on certain outliers (DH's levels, my last blood test, etc).  Then, once we finally saw everyone who they required us to see, we had to meet with the IVF educator to learn how to do the injections, then with our dr to clarify our expectations regarding implantation, etc. Because we stopped mid cycle, I had to wait until my next cycle started before we could start getting into with IVF. That was back in March. All in all, I think it took about two weeks to get everything settled with the specialists, then another week or so to get the approvals. We have Harvard Pilgrim and while I normally have zero complaints about them, the visit with the anesthesiologist was the last straw. Not even she understood why they were making me go see her about a month before retrieval. But, it was like "grit your teeth and get it over with", which we did.

    I'm always super, super grateful for insurance, but never more so than this year. Between DH's myriad health issues, this IVF, and now I've been ordered off to physical therapy for my back, I would be destitute without it. It's so, so easy to see how a medical issue can bankrupt a family.


    Good luck with it, and I say enjoy your vacation without all the IVF drama. If your insurance co is like mine, it will give you a date range that the cycle is good for. Mine's good until end of June.

     
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    Kar, I think wed was referring to your other post about how we all take risks even w/o IVF, etc.

     
  19. You have chosen to ignore posts from kargiver. Show kargiver's posts

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    Ohhh, of course, whoops!  Sorry, med, and thanks, Fram for pointing that out.  Omg

     
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    Hi ladies,

    It's been a while, just wanted to write in.  So, I'm kind of at a loss right now.  A few months back I explained how they had found a dermoid in my ovary...well, the whole situation has turned into a nightmare of sorts.  Turns out, there is a mass in my abdomen "strangling" my appendix which is 3x the typical size and on the verge of rupture, they have also noted there is a "mass" (no longer dermoid cyst) on my right ovary and a mass blocking (or they think is blocking) my LEFT fallopian tube.  Most likely cause = atypical aggressive endometriosis.  Sweet.

    So I'm having surgery on Friday to remove my appendix, probably a part of my intestine, and probably also one if not both of my fallopian tubes.  I have two surgeons - one will be working on the intestinal stuff, the other on my reproductive system.  They are going to see if my fallopian tubes are working before removing them, obviously, but she was explaining that once they stop working due to a mass (given it's endo) they can never be repaired.  The mass on my ovary, unless it's easily visible, they are going to leave as to not disrupt my ovary as much as possible.

    So, given that this is not endometrial cancer or "some weird lymphoma" as was also an idea thrown out - and this is endometriosis....the gyno surgeon informed me that the next few months will be the "most likely" opportunity for me to ever become pregnant because they will have cleaned out the endometriosis before it begins its regrowth.  She also said I will likely only get pregnant through IVF which I was leaning towards anyway because of the clotting disease though now it seems like more of a certainty if I want to get pregnant at all.

    So I guess I really really have to either jump in, or start thinking about other options (like adoption, surrogacy, or remaining childless).  It's kind of crazy how I'm being forced to make this decision now, like right now.  

    Sigh...

    I'm just having trouble dealing with everything, so I thought I'd write in.  Any advice, insight etc is more than welcome.  Like perhaps I know you were talking a lot about insurance above - do you think a diagnosis like this would allow me to even attempt IVF sooner rather than later?  Any experience with that?

     
  21. You have chosen to ignore posts from kargiver. Show kargiver's posts

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    Fakin, I'm sorry you're dealing with ALL that and the ramifications thereof regarding making a ttc decision immediately.  I can only imagine that your situation would be an approved reason for starting ivf immediately, but who can really predict what the insurance co will actually do.  I hope the obvious right answer IS their answer if that's the route you decide on.

    best wishes and hugs!!

     

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