Re: Bynum and Gasol both injured
posted at 4/4/2011 9:00 AM EDT
In Response to Re: Bynum and Gasol both injured
[QUOTE]Normally I keep my comments strictly about basketball, so I'm going to make my two cents quick about Kobe, specifically the rape accusation. I speak simply as a woman, a white woman yes, but I have no control over that. I'd like to think that if I were a black woman I would feel the same way... First of all, let me state the obvious: No one but Kobe and the woman in question knows what really happened or didn't happen in that Colorado hotel room. When we make our arguments, it comes down to who we believe. I happen to believe the young lady, and if I have any bias it's because I am female, not because of my race. Legally speaking, the false reporting rate for rape is about 2%, which is equal to or lower than that for other violent crimes. There are exceptions to every rule, but the woman who makes such false accusations is extremely rare. And nearly every woman can understand the reasons why: From girlhood, we live with the knowledge that this can happen to us. For most of us, it is the worst nightmare we could possibly imagine. For this reason, we look over our shoulders while walking outside at night and consider carrying pepper spray to a first date with a new man. The fear of rape and its aftermath is a very deeply ingrained part of the female psyche. Many women would rather be murdered than raped, and this is mainly due to the stigma that gets universally attached to rape victims/survivors - you know, the whole damaged goods perception. For most, if not all of us, all the money in the world is not worth the humiliation and the fear that the people we love, not to mention the world, would never look at us the same again. That is why there are laws protecting such women from having their names made public - which were all breached in the Kobe case. Look the case up on Wikipedia and you'll see this girl's name, along with every skeleton in her closet - some of which Rsalas alluded to in his post. Again, no money in the world would be worth it to most women. Yes, I realize there are exceptions but we are talking tiny, tiny percentages here. Ditto for the all the death threats she got. Nearly every woman knows that if she accuses a rich, powerful, enormously popular man of violence, the playing field will be so unlevel it may as well be vertical. Again, why would a woman go through all that if nothing happened? My personal opinion is that something did happen, though I'm willing to give Kobe the benefit of the doubt in that he may have sincerely believed she was consenting. This is where self-entitlement comes in: Perhaps he didn't hear her because he didn't want to hear her, didn't think it mattered if he heard her. But it's not just him. So many rape cases are like that, and neither person's life is ever the same again. Keep in mind, only the two of them know what really happened. And that is common for most rape cases as well. No witnesses. So the stars would have to line up perfectly for any such case to be airtight. It rarely happens. That's why the conviction rate is still - I believe - lower than for any other violent crime. Simple lack of evidence. That's different from the woman having no credibility. As for her not reporting the crime until a couple days later, statistically speaking that is actually a quick turn-around time. Most women never come forward and many vascillate for such a long time about whether they have it in them to endure the grilling and humiliation, that they wait longer than a few days. The sad thing is, I think the Kobe case may have reinforced some of these fears in other women. Just a hunch, haven't checked THOSE stats lately, but common sense would say that what that girl had to endure may have had a chilling effect on some others. I guess what I am calling for, overall, is a little sensitivity on both sides. I believe Kobe's shown enough selfishness and self-entitlement that there's no need to play the Colorado card. And this is coming from someone who believes he did it. But what I'm mainly responding to is the position that the woman involved was outright lying. No one knows that for a fact, and there are compelling arguments that support her - or that at least support her contention that *something* happened. That this, at the very least, is a teachable moment, an argument for good judgment, sexual respect and communicative sexuality. That, if Kobe were not so marketable in other ways, this would be a cloud hanging over him for a long, long time. All right, back to basketball from here for me... EDIT: Oooh, guess that wasn't so quick... my apologies!!
Posted by MsLithium21[/QUOTE]
I agree with much of your post, but who knows what the false report rate is? Inmates have sat in jail for decades before being exonerated.I don`t know where the statitic you gave comes from ,but it can only be a guesstimate. It probably reflects accusations PROVED to be false
, since the actual number of false accusations is essentially unknowable except by the parties involved.