Definition of tragedy
posted at 6/26/2013 11:00 AM EDT
Words often get used incorrectly and out of context. But the AH situation is truly a tragedy.
"A drama or literary work in which the main character is brought to ruin or suffers extreme sorrow, especially as a consequence of a tragic flaw, moral weakness, or inability to cope with unfavorable circumstances."
Except, of course, it's not pretend.
I keep thinking about Lloyd's mom. When you're a parent, all sorts of awful "what-ifs" regarding your kids play in your head -- from imagining your kid falling down the stairs, to a specific instance like this. "What must it be like for the parent -- what if that happened to my kid?"
But my mind keeps shutting down; she has lost her only boy and I can't even get my head around the size of the hole that's in her heart. And it won't ever go away. Ever. When people lose a child, they change; they still live and love and laugh, but they're different. Often they become better people, kinder, gentler and more patient. But the sadness never leaves their eyes and it's palpable; you can feel it in the air around them.
The one thing I can't figure out - it seems like Lloyd was a good guy; maybe some shady stuff will come out, but seems like he wasn't a thug, didn't seem to live on the edge; that's where all this falls apart for me...
Anyway, it's a tragedy, and so much grief and sadness for so many people to now carry for so long.
I believe it's important to search out the positive in even the worst situations. This one is tough.
RIP Odin Lloyd.