Re: No Name-Calling Challenge!
posted at 12/12/2013 3:43 PM EST
In response to BabeParilli's comment:
In response to 347pg's comment:
"I'll respect your opinion even if I don't agree with it."
I can't abide by this. I respect a person's right to have an opinion, but not necessarily the opinion itself.
Ok, how about not allowing your disrespect for someone's opinion take precedence over your discussion of it?
I won't try to minimize what you're posting by making veiled slams against your thinking."
How about overt slams; just in case their thinking is stupid?
No. No overt slams either. A well conceived argument or response doesn't need to rely on slams (covert or overt) to make a point. Tricks like "Any reasonable person would agree that....." are not allowed either. A person is already is on the defensive, having been called unreasonable for disagreeing.
"I'll have a meaningful discussion with you as long as you want. Once you cave in to abusive behavior, I'll retreat without following you. You'll know that you have taken the low road by my silence."
I'm not a drama queen that gets all in a huff because somebody insults or calls me a name on a damned internet message board.
Understood. but once the floodgate is opened, threads start to disintegrate at an expponential rate. Just look at this thread.
"I promise not to try to make myself look good by trying to make you look bad or stupid."
I can agree to this. But when somebody is being stupid they can't help but look bad and it's apt to be pointed out.
If they are making themselves look bad, there's no reason to point it out. Maybe a reminder that they're breaking the challenge.
"I'll refrain from calling you a troll."
So UD6 and Meadow get to crap on our team and we can't even call them what they actually are?
Yes. Maybe if we treated them with some respect, they would do the same. Hard to tell since we haven't given this a chance.
"I'm going to like you even if you don't like me. After all, we all like football"
Ahhhh, some people just don't like each other. It's called life. You can't artificially fix that.
Ok, so maybe I'm reaching here a bit. But we don't have to let the dislike come through in our words.
"I'll bury the hatchet as of now with any of you that I've offended or with any of you that I have taken offense."
I'm perfectly willing to do that. But any who experience my admonishments got there for a legit reason, and will likely end up right back there for the same legit reasons.
Not if you agree not to admonish, but rather discuss.
I think you need to reconsider a number of these provisions.
I wasn't trying to hijack your thread. I just think it needs to be brought to the next level, if we want this to be a board that's enjoyable for everyone. What's the sense of stopping the name calling? It's treating a symptom and not the real problem. Not trying to poke you or anyone else in the eye, just trying to have a good discussion about the Pats. Been here since '06 and have seen people come and go. When I go to the gang-green site, they insult each other all in good fun. They actually enjoy each others' company. This site can get caustic with the nastiness. it would be nice if we could have what they have, except not having to root for the jests of course.