Re: Who's on your ignore list?
posted at 12/22/2011 10:20 AM EST
In Response to Re: Who's on your ignore list?
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Who's on your ignore list? : Another with a job that was probably handed to them.
Posted by Patsfansince1966[/QUOTE]
Actually, I was working on my PhD, realized I didn't have the ear of my advisors (much like you) and maybe also lacked the commitment to my studies, got out of academia, drifted around for a few years working menial jobs, then responded to an ad in the newspaper for a better paying job in a field only loosely related to my studies and located in another city where I knew no one, got the job, moved to the new city, worked to develop new skills, started to get bigger assignments and to build a reputation in my field, changed jobs a few times and, in doing so, moved between cities and countries, and now am a senior executive at a very large global company.
Was anything handed to me? Not really. But at the same time, I'm not one of these people who buys into the myth that successful people are all self-made and have earned everything they get. Material success results from a combination of innate skills, will, energy, and a decent amount of luck. In any field where success demands interaction with other people, social skills are especially important. Sometimes those are "nice" social skills--being charming and easy to work with. Sometimes they are darker social skills--like being able to intimidate other people or exploit them. People succeed because their character is admirable--and sometimes because it's not so admirable. Success is not, in my opinion, an indicator of either virtue or villainy. It's the result of having the skills and doing the things--good or bad--that lead to success. Similarly, the lack of "success"--at least material success--is no indicator of one's ultimate worth. There are plenty of unsuccessful people who are talented, hard working, and good, but just have focused themselves on things that don't lead to success or have simply had bad fortune. Sometimes these people are among the most worthy of all. And sometimes not. The same dichotomy exists among the successful--some really are most worthy. And others just prove that god, if he exists, is a most capricious deity.
In the end you have to do what makes you happy--and if you succeed or fail, neither take too much credit nor ascribe too much blame--because ultimately the fates are fickle and we all come to the same end. From ashes to ashes, dust to dust. The Lord giveth and the Lord taketh away. Blessed be the name of the Lord.