Re: Bummer for Jerry Remy
posted at 11/3/2013 10:51 PM EST
In response to mrmojo1120's comment:
In response to kimsaysthis' comment:
Bummer for a girl who was beaten to death after being encouraged not to ask for protection from a guy who had beaten women before.
First,she was stabbed to death.Secondly,do you really think an order of protection would have stopped him from murdering her?Really?
I'm sure Jerry and his wife feel terrible beyond words with what happened.They were trying to protect their son from legal entanglements,which is what a lot of parents would do.Nobody wants to believe that their son or daughter was capable of this kind of violence.They were obviously wrong with that misplaced loyalty and realize it now.
I can only believe that's a decision that they truly regret with all their heart.I'm also willing to bet that they think about that decision on almost a daily basis and wonder how it could have been different if they didn't stop her from getting a order of protection.
The Remy's weren't the only ones to drop the ball here by the way.The police could have held him in jail too,as explained in this paragraph from the Globe:
" Even without Jennifer Martel’s cooperation, prosecutors could have asked that Remy be held under the state’s dangerousness law, which was enacted in the early 1990s to give prosecutors a tool in the fight against domestic violence. Middlesex prosecutors did use that law when Remy was charged in 2005 with kicking, punching, and dragging his former girlfriend, which led to his being held for at least 81 days at Middlesex jail, according to court records."
So anyways,I feel empathy for Jerry and his wife.This was an outcome neither one wanted or expected.Now they have to live with their decisions both right and wrong involving their son and this young woman.The shame and guilt is probably more of a punishment to them than their son will suffer for commiting the actual murder.
Of course,I feel badly for the parents,child and friends of this poor woman as well.They're innocent victims of Remy's rage.
By the way,I also hope Jared Remy gets prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law. He's an animal and doesn't deserve to ever be free again.
Let's just understand that this guy is in his thirties, is a known steroid abuser, and has beaten women before. Is the answer really to bury it, and have him go on as if nothing happened because he's the son of a celebrity?
You claim to want him punished to the full extent of the law for murder, but you're OK when he was just a GIANT grown man beating up women with the protection of his family. I was beaten by a boyfriend that I broke up with. He followed me, I was cornered, tried to run, was grabbed by the back of my hair, and had my head slammed over and over again against a garage door. He only dropped me when my friend started to cry and said he was going to kill me.
IMO if they wanted to protect their son, they should have gotten him the help he clearly needed long ago. To continue to protect him and cover for him, and let him beat up women as if it's no big deal can't possibly be the answer.
FTR I don't want Remy punished for his involvement. I, honestly, believe he is suffering and will continue to suffer forever. I can't imagine what it must be like for him and his family. But I also can't imagine what it must be like to be stabbed to death, and leave a little child with no parents. I just think this could have been avoided had they taken notice of so many red flags along the way.