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Comment on: Coping with my wife's depression - Love Letters - Relationships questions, advice and more
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Comment on: I have a soul mate - Love Letters - Relationships questions, advice and more
Although LW is an adult (I think). How about: "Like two solitary birds flying the great prairies by celestial reckoning, all of these years and lifetimes we have been moving toward one another.â Rob more »
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Comment on: He disappeared - Love Letters - Relationships questions, advice and more
Ugh, a closure letter. LW, people who drop off the face of the earth are usually people who dislike confrontation and don't have the courage to face someone's hurt feelings. Trying to track them down more »
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Comment on: She wants to take a break - Love Letters - Relationships questions, advice and more
Jail-Time, fair question, but "co-" wouldn't mean that she would be clingy too. Often you hear this term when referring to couples where one is an alcoholic. So, if Mary is the alcoholic, and if John more »
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Comment on: She wants to take a break - Love Letters - Relationships questions, advice and more
This is just speculation on my part, but having seen a co-dependent relationship up close and personal, I'm thinking her "break" is -- "I need a break from this co-dependent guy. He's smothering me ev more »
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Comment on: Jealous of his online friends - Love Letters - Relationships questions, advice and more
Instead of thinking of his online friends as relationships you should feel jealous of, think of them as his entertainment. You wouldn't feel jealous of the characters on TV shows that he watches, woul more »
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Comment on: He doesn't want kids - Love Letters - Relationships questions, advice and more
I don't think its fair to the LW to belittle wanting to have children, and to boil that want down to baby vomit and Thomas the Tank Engine. Having a baby is about having a baby, raising that baby to b more »
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Forum Post: What are your favorite apps for the iPad?
Trulia -- cool real estate app. You can be anywhere, pull up a map, and see what the houses around you are going for. Visible Body 3D Human Anatomy Atlas -- you can see inside your body, from any angl more »
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Comment on: She never contributes - Love Letters - Relationships questions, advice and more
My knee-jerk reaction is she's feeling very sophisticated and grown-up since she's getting so well wined and dined by you and doesn't want to break the illusion by saying "thank you" -- which may, in more »
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Comment on: I'm bad at dating - Love Letters - Relationships questions, advice and more
I think Swingers has to be required watching for everyone trying to get in the dating game but who feels less than confident: "These claws and these fangs! You're looking at your claws and your fangs. more »
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Comment on: His ex keeps calling and calling - Love Letters - Relationships questions, advice and more
Meredith asked for ways to train her brain. Here's one. A text comes in from the mom. Imagine instead it is a toddler calling from the bathroom that he needs to have his butt wiped and that either you more »
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Comment on: His ex keeps calling and calling - Love Letters - Relationships questions, advice and more
Jealous much? You are essentially asking him to set aside his children's well-being (in the form of two parents who are making time to get the minutiae of child-rearing right) to appease your irritati more »
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Comment on: Monday question: The Bad Sister - Miss Conduct - Boston.com
That is a maddening situation -- kids out of control, parents don't take responsibility. Much good advice has already been given. I just wanted to say a few words about the other part of your frustrat more »
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Comment on: Monday question: Hostess with the leastest - Miss Conduct - Boston.com
Since it was an invitation to you and your two children from a very old friend makes me think less "dinner party" (which, to me, implies just adults, somewhat formal, kind of an occasion) and more "di more »
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Comment on: Our problems might be dealbreakers - Love Letters - Relationships questions, advice and more
This is akin to the whole "we come from different faiths" thing. If it isn't a big deal, it isn't a big deal. If it is a big deal, it is a big deal. You are saying it is a big deal that he doesn't mak more »
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Comment on: I'm paranoid after dates - Love Letters - Relationships questions, advice and more
Dear LW, Step 1: Watch "Swingers." Great movie, and there might be some lessons in there for you. Step 2: I'm actually not sure what Step 2 is. I'd like to say, "Calm down!" but saying it won't make i more »
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Comment on: Avoiding the friend zone - Love Letters - Relationships questions, advice and more
You've had months to ask her out, and now that she's two days into dating someone else, you think now is the time? Dude. That just sounds kind of lame to me. Go find someone else you like, and possibl more »
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Comment on: He's ruined our finances - Love Letters - Relationships questions, advice and more
At this point, why do you even want to try to fix things with him? The clincher for me was that he's asked you many times to move out. The fact that you find creditor calls "embarrassing" makes me thi more »
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Comment on: I never wanted to get married - Love Letters - Relationships questions, advice and more
"We signed the papers and I hoped for the best." LW, you are in a messy, complicated situation, one that you helped create, as Meredith said. I agree with all her advice. Yet, that phrase really stuck more »
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Comment on: Choosing%20between%20x%20and%20y
In this little algebra story, you are proposing that z-y=x. I actually think if you go that route, it will end up being z-y=x-x. In other words, you are going to end up single and with neither one of more »
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Comment on: Should%20I%20tell%20my%20friend%20she%26%2339%3Bs%20wrong
Meredith, file this one under "meddling" and re-use this response each time. Kind and actionable and brilliant. Better yet, trademark it and sell it to all other advice columnists when they need the p more »
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Comment on: Battling%20my%20inner%20Charlie%20Sheen
"I know inside that most likely I will want to start a family someday and certainly would leave Charlie behind for that..." And I'm pretty sure that you maybe definitely don't know exactly what you wa more »
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Comment on: Who%20wants%20a%20single%20dad%3F
Who wants a single dad? A single mom, that's who. Probably not a single non-mom; if she wants kids, she'll probably want her own, and if she doesn't, she doesn't want yours either. But single moms? If more »
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Comment on: I want kids - Love Letters - Relationships questions, advice and more
Let me just add that it isn't necessarily a "her or a baby" equation. It is a "her or another woman AND a baby." I get that you love this woman, and that things are otherwise great....but there is not more »
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Comment on: Should%20I%20be%20suspicious%3F
Isn't it obvious? Someone who goes to Amsterdam for the weekends? Someone who is indisposed for long periods of time? Someone who drives around a lot? He's a drug dealer! He's just probably waiting fo more »
There's a lot that you need to do, including all the therapy stuff people have mentioned, but I'd say a simple actionable thing that can actually make a difference is that next time she sits down to p more »