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Comment on: I fight the end - Love Letters - Relationships questions, advice and more
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Comment on: I fight the end - Love Letters - Relationships questions, advice and more
Break ups are hard. I think we all have a tendency to analyze what went wrong. Truth? Maybe nothing really did go wrong; it just didn't go right. No blame. Focus on the positives, even if it's a more »
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Comment on: He's just not motivated - Love Letters - Relationships questions, advice and more
Yep...this reads to me as a "can I change him" letter. No, you can't -- I think Meredith is right. You either accept him as he is now, or make some decisions to leave. You love him, and you want to more »
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Comment on: He's far away but I don't want to let go - Love Letters - Relationships questions, advice and more
"Life is what happens when you're busy making other plans"? John Lennon?
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Comment on: He's far away but I don't want to let go - Love Letters - Relationships questions, advice and more
Agreed. They both need to commit, or let go. I'm sure they've talked about moving closer to one another. I wonder why that's not possible? Clearly, there's something more important to each (or bot more »
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Comment on: With Jack ... but thinking about Emily - Love Letters - Relationships questions, advice and more
OK. Sounds like you've come to the realization that it isn't working with Jack. That right there is reason to have The Talk. You're struggling with the sexual orientation issue. Many, many people more »
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Comment on: Can we take a break for a year? - Love Letters - Relationships questions, advice and more
Meredith -- so sorry to hear about this! I know how stressful a time like this can be. We are all sending good thoughts and wishes...when you can, check back in with us, and let us know what's happe more »
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Comment on: She keeps going back to her ex - Love Letters - Relationships questions, advice and more
"I know that she called off a wedding to be with this guy and they had a great few months and then it fizzled." Uh-oh. That right there speaks volumes. I think she doesn't quite know what she wants more »
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Comment on: He won't stop contacting me - Love Letters - Relationships questions, advice and more
I agree with Rico. I also think that this could potentially be a dangerous situation. Be firm. Change telephone numbers, get off Facebook and any other social media you're on. I emphasize -- be fi more »
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Comment on: He has to live in LA - Love Letters - Relationships questions, advice and more
Well, it looks like your choices are: 1) acclaimate to the West Coast (if you're throwing out the 5-10 time line, that's possible); 2) both of you move back East (you'd be closer to your family, Ma more »
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Comment on: Dating seems gross right now - Love Letters - Relationships questions, advice and more
Yep -- I like this. Don't pressure yourself; you've been through a lot, and some healing needs to take place. Sure, exercise and a good therapist...yoga might be a good alternative, too. But give i more »
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Comment on: Friday(ish) roundup: That Was the Week That Was Edition - Miss Conduct - Boston.com
I didn't know about what happened until Friday morning, when my clock radio was announcing that the MBTA was closed down. I turned on the TV, and got more information about what happened the night be more »
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Comment on: Should I miss him more? - Love Letters - Relationships questions, advice and more
Sounds like he's ready for a serious (potentially married) kind of relationship, and as much as you love him, I'm not sure you're at that point (at least with him). I think you've got some instincts more »
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Comment on: He's friends with an ex - Love Letters - Relationships questions, advice and more
That's what I was thinking, two cent...good call. I get an uneasy feeling about this guy, and about her willingness to go along with it...
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Comment on: Sick of the roller coaster - Love Letters - Relationships questions, advice and more
I think the LW now has some pretty clear information about the character of this person...my queestion: does he really want to be around someone who can treat another person this way? She broke up w more »
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Comment on: I think he's dating a gold digger - Love Letters - Relationships questions, advice and more
Yep...the guy seems pretty vulnerable; sounds like he hasn't come to grips yet with his wife's passing. Poor guy. As far as this situation is concerned, I think Meredith is on to something - ask que more »
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Comment on: Did I come on too strong? - Love Letters - Relationships questions, advice and more
Yep...that's what caught my eye. Not so much the couch; but the letter. Lesson: If ya have a strong emotional reaction to a situation, and you need to get some of that off your chest, then yes, *wr more »
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Comment on: Engaged ... but I still have a crush - Love Letters - Relationships questions, advice and more
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Comment on: Engaged ... but I still have a crush - Love Letters - Relationships questions, advice and more
Well, i'd like to think that this is just a reaction to the reality of what marriage is - a committment, supposedly for the rest of your lives, to just one other person. The closer that seems, someti more »
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Comment on: My ex is coming for a visit - Love Letters - Relationships questions, advice and more
Well, this is what can happen when there's so much passivity in the relationship. Life lesson learned. Yes, he shoulda consulted you on the specifics of his trip, but it sounds like he feels that y more »
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Comment on: What's wrong with this picture? - Love Letters - Relationships questions, advice and more
Well, fake or not, I do think therapy would be helpful. The LW doesn't seem to be able to clearly say what is bothering her -- and therapy could help her with that. When LW gains clarity, a talk can more »
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Forum Post: SEP IRA
In response to MASocietyofCPAs' comment: In response to Maldenlady's comment: [ My boss started an IRA for me. I'm not sure how to report that on my 1040. I'm just putting that money directly into t more »
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Forum Post: SEP IRA
My boss started an IRA for me. I'm not sure how to report that on my 1040. I'm just putting that money directly into the IRA "for the benefit of Maldenlady". No distribution involved. Do I put thi more »
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Comment on: Dealing with parental pressure - Love Letters - Relationships questions, advice and more
I was kinda thinking this, too...but more from a two-years-and-no-engagement angle; not necessarily a "Yikes! She's not married yet - oh the horror" point of view. Then I remembered my older sister' more »
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Comment on: I haven't met his kids - Love Letters - Relationships questions, advice and more
It's been five months. You've already introduced him to friends/family. His divorce may have been five years ago, but it may still be smarting - especially if there are children involved (from the f more »
So, let's analyze her analysis of her tendency to overanalysis! I think i just hurt myself...